Watching my children make life decisions can be exciting and it can be painful. Right now, my daughter is going through the awful realization that her marriage of four years is not viable. There is no life support that can revive it.
They are who they are. She had a dream and he wanted to come along so that was what they used as their foundation. It never happened. Life got in the way.
They are who they are. He is a nice guy, fun to be with. Energetic. Athletic. Wants to explore and experience. But has issues with the mundane issues that life requires. Can not stick to a plan. Can not do what he says he will do.
They are who they are. She is a planner. She sets her eyes on a goal and plans out the steps that will get her there. She makes lists and succeeds. She makes friends easily and holds them dear, but will not tolerate someone who hurts her.
They are who they are. They are trying to get through this next phase as “friendly” as possible. No kids. No property except what each of them purchased out of their own funds for their travels. So the process is as simple as the law permits.
But there are missteps and pain along the way. Communication to explain how a misstep caused an additional problem. Excuses given. Tears flow.
All I can do is tell her she will wade through this and life will get easier. All I can do, if he reads this blog, is tell him the same.
Life’s mistakes are opportunities for personal growth. The only thing we can control in some situations is our attitude. Chose the high road. And parents-watch what you say. It is not your life. Let the adult child make the decisions.