Something is going on.
In the past three weeks five people I know have had babies. In the next two weeks, several more babies are due. The problem is not that there are so many wonderful babies born, the issue is it is all around the country so potentially more difficult to avoid if it is spread in the water. Be careful. Maybe drink beer or wine instead.
Also in the past couple of weeks several of my friends have been going through difficult times. Loss of jobs, illness, marriage issues, needing to move, you name it.
So I put a light hearted spin on the babies, but in reality, life throws huge curveballs sometimes. And there are times in life that it feels that the issues are all there are to deal with with no “normal” time happening. Lots of issues that will cause a major change. Babies do that also.
So, why is it that just when you need to face a needed adjustment, all you feel like doing is staying in bed? At the time you need to think clearly, all your issues are making your head spin.
You need to forget how it will look and reach for help. If you have a reliable partner, share, talk, hug, cry, plan. If you don’t, call a friend. You and I know that when the going gets tough, only true friends walk with you. The others scatter, as if it is contagious. Better off without them. Note their action but do not spend one iota of energy mourning their loss.
But remember to reach. And if no friends surround you, get thee to a professional. Someone who has expertise in the area where you need the help. Don’t put on your game face. Give an honest picture of where your head is, your heart is, your finances are. Only with honesty, essentially to yourself, can you get on the pathway to healing.
And besides, beer and wine won’t help. You need to take those steps, albeit difficult, to look yourself in the mirror, into your heart, tell yourself you deserve better, and then work for it.
Why? Because you are loved. You are important. I need you in my life.
January 7, 2015 at 8:16 pm
This time of year has always been not-so-good for me. This year it’s merely been evicting renters and cleaning up the pigsty they left and dealing with a sinus infection. Minor, indeed compared to previous Decembers.
January 7, 2015 at 8:17 pm
I didn’t know you have rental property! My sinuses are a mess to…..even so, things are good